But I'll listen if it's important
I never have been really tolerent of small talk - I don't like it and since "growing up" - getting married, moving out of my parents house and having a baby I have an even lower tolerence for it.
I just can't do How are you, how's the weather, what have ou been doing all day/week/month (month I might be able to do) I'm a stay at home mother -now alot of mothers do things - they go to mothers groups or play group or gymboree or visting friends some have part time work outside of the home or an at home business and that's great - I'm even jealous.
Me I don't do anything. I do my housework and play with my daughter and every friday I get together with my best friend either at the shops or at a park (depending on the Friday)
Weekends are the only variety I have and they're usually all the same Every second Saturday we go to the markets, sometimes one or more of the boys comes over Sundays Nick has Pipe Band.
So I don't talk to people on the phone - I hate the phone (which is a funny thing for a receptionist to say but it's true I only like answering other peoples phones for a work purpose)
I hate calling for pizza, I don't like talking to telemarketers because I can never get them to hang up without being really rude and feeling bad about it for hours afterwards.
I will only call someone if I have a purpose - some kind of news like Elana's got teeth/walking/running/ate a fantail -- then I'll call my mum
I will only call someone after I've thought out my end of the conversation and I have lots to say
If someone calls me - like my mum and I don't have anything to say and she doesn't have a purpose other then she's bored and wants to make small talk I get irritated -- she's learnt this and doesn't call me much anymore unless she has a reason.
Rin and I only talk on the phone for two reasons - Arranging a time to meet up or gossip "Guess who called me who we haven't seen in 7 years (sunday)" "Guess who's pregnant/getting married/bought a house"
and a third reason I guess is if we've had a bad day and need to vent (and it's too early for her to have a beer)
But I can't make small talk
I rarely initiate conversations on msn unless there's a reason - like someone has a weird sign in name, it's a birthday or they were doing something cool the last time we talked and I want to know what happened. (I'm also really bad with emails)
So if I'm "cold" or "withdrawn" or 'distant" it's not because I don't like you - It's because I just can't talk to you about your cat/dog/weather/my boring life -I can't do small talk.
If if we were to get together at the mall/coffee shop/park I'd make (and do make) a conceited effort to talk about anything.
Edited to say:- I'm good with "news" - new baby, new house, my baby is sick, my baby took some steps (anything baby/child related) and I'm good with a crisis Trina I need your help with this "present for my girl/advice about a boy/please check my homework/my SO left/I have issues..." I'll always listen to something important. It's just the
Hi
Hi
How are you
Fine, you?
I'm fine
what have you been doing
THOSE conversations drive me crazy.